Type of bind: Hardcover
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Manufacturer: Little, Brown and Company
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Page Count: 334
Printing Date: 1997-06
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Each hour, 75 women are raped in the United States, and every few seconds, a woman is beaten. Each day, 400 Americans suffer shooting injuries, and another 1,100 face criminals armed with guns. Author Gavin de Becker says victims of violent behavior usually feel a sense of fear before any threat or violence takes place. They may distrust the fear, or it may impel them to some action that saves their lives. A leading expert on predicting violent behavior, de Becker believes we can all learn to recognize these signals of the 'universal code of violence,' and use them as tools to help us survive. The book teaches how to identify the warning signals of a potential attacker and recommends strategies for dealing with the problem before it becomes life threatening. The case studies are gripping and suspenseful, and include tactics for dealing with similar situations.
People don't just 'snap' and become violent, says de Becker, whose clients include federal government agencies, celebrities, police departments, and shelters for battered women. 'There is a process as observable, and often as predictable, as water coming to a boil.' Learning to predict violence is the cornerstone to preventing it. De Becker is a master of the psychology of violence, and his advice may save your life. --Joan Price
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True fear is a gift.
Unwarranted fear is a curse.
Learn how to tell the difference.
A date won't take 'no' for an answer. The new nanny gives a mother an uneasy feeling. A stranger in a deserted parking lot offers unsolicited help. The threat of violence surrounds us every day. But we can protect ourselves, by learning to trust—and act on—our gut instincts.
In this empowering book, Gavin de Becker, the man Oprah Winfrey calls the nation's leading expert on violent behavior, shows you how to spot even subtle signs of danger—before it's too late. Shattering the myth that most violent acts are unpredictable, de Becker, whose clients include top Hollywood stars and government agencies, offers specific ways to protect yourself and those you love, including...how to act when approached by a stranger...when you should fear someone close to you...what to do if you are being stalked...how to uncover the source of anonymous threats or phone calls...the biggest mistake you can make with a threatening person...and more. Learn to spot the danger signals others miss. It might just save your life.
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this is a really good book!!! i'm not originally from this country, but this stuff is real and can be used in any society.
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I'm fifteen years old. I'm probably one of the youngest readers of The Gift of Fear, but Gavin de Becker's words empowered me just as much as they did the subsequent person. I loved the book. It made me realize that I have to stop ignoring my body, my intuition. If you haven't read this book, go out and get it! It will teach you so many things. This book should be required reading in high school, especially in girl's "health" classes. It is a practical, although at times scary, outline of the threats that can be around us. The layout is particularly good in that each chapter is a different specific threat. DeBecker has set up the book as if it was a manual; he describes step by step how to keep you safe. The way he organizes the information makes it much more understandable. It's obvious he took his time getting all of his thoughts and beliefs down on paper. As you blue you sense a certain amount of fear in the way he writes, you can tell he is sincerely dedicated to warning and helping woman of the violence we have in our society today. He's been through and witnessed violence (as he describes in his book) hearing what he thought and felt makes it easier to relate to your own life. Too bad we live in a world like this, but this book can give one an edge. The real life anecdotes blew me away. The account of the murdered woman who had reportedly suffered violence at the hands of the defendant for a long while. The calls to police, filing battery charges, lady killed by stabbing, defendant had a dream about killing her, his lawyers claiming it was drug dealers that committed murder. Sound familiar? DeBecker reveals that this true story happened six months before the famous "white Bronco" television event in a neighborhood thousands of miles from Brentwood. This book is too good NOT to read. Ever since a couple of years ago, I knew I wanted to help people. I'm the person my friends come to when they have a conflict, I like giving advice and solving people's dilemmas. There was one problem: I didn't heed my own advice. I didn't listen to myself many times because I could picture people saying, "Oh, that's a silly suspicion." Fortunately, I have never been in a situation in which I deeply regret ignoring my intuition, but after reading The Gift of Fear I have learned how to listen to myself. I also baby-sit. The other day I was holding one of the children, and he pointed to one of his brother's friends and whispered to me, "I'm scared of him." I thought for a moment and replied, "Well, you know what? That's OK." I told him that if he's ever afraid, he should leave where that person is and go find Mommy, or me, or someone he knows and doesn't feel afraid. I was proud that he listened to his intuition, but I think I was more proud of my response. I was totally psyched that I had reinforced something he needs to survive. My point is that The Gift of Fear taught me how to use my gift of intuition and my gift of fear. Read the book because you will learn from it; you will use the tactics everyday. Gavin de Becker does an excellent job of sharing his experience in dealing with topics of understanding threats, predicting violence, workplace violence, stalking, domestic violence, and more. This book will shed new light in an area of our society where unwanted pursuits and violent behavior seem to be a part of our every day existence. Best of all, you will become more comfortable with every day life and you will use the wonderful treasures Mother Nature has given you because it was instilled in you by Gavin de Becker.
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That "little voice"...It is there for a reason...Instinct is there to keep us safe...Do not allow it to become skewed or let someone talk us out of it....
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This is a good book for women who are crippled by socialization to be accomidating and "nice". While this works for 95% of the people a woman will meet, when it fails, it fails big time. At the very least, it will make a timid woman think about politeness vs. her safety.
A quick note: I recommended this to a friend, who said it would make his daughter afraid of men. Give her this book in one hand with How to Lie With Statistics by Darrell Huff in the other (as Mr. de Becker seems to draw his numbers from somewhere strange - maybe international statistics? I don't know). Teach her to take the good advice from this book (and others), and leave the bad stuff behind. There is good information in this book; don't throw it all out.
The largest thing that I disliked about this book was the anti-gun stuff. I am a woman and I own a SKS rifle, which I love. I have plans to purchase a handgun when I can afford one. Guns are tools, just like any thing else. Misuse them and they can hurt you and others; invaluable in the right circumstances, with the correct handling.
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I'm fifteen years old. I'm probably one of the youngest readers of The Gift of Fear, but Gavin de Becker's words empowered me just as much as they did the subsequent person. I loved the book. It made me realize that I have to stop ignoring my body, my intuition. If you haven't read this book, go out and get it! It will teach you so many things. This book should be required reading in high school, especially in girl's "health" classes. It is a practical, although at times scary, outline of the threats that can be around us. The layout is particularly good in that each chapter is a different specific threat. Too bad we live in a world like this, but this book can give one an edge. The real life anecdotes blew me away. The account of the murdered woman who had reportedly suffered violence at the hands of the defendant for a long while. The calls to police, filing battery charges, lady killed by stabbing, defendant had a dream about killing her, his lawyers claiming it was drug dealers that committed murder. Sound familiar? DeBecker reveals that this true story happened six months before the famous "white Bronco" television event in a neighborhood thousands of miles from Brentwood. This book is too good NOT to read. Ever since a couple of years ago, I knew I wanted to help people. I'm the person my friends come to when they have a conflict, I like giving advice and solving people's dilemmas. There was one problem: I didn't heed my own advice. I didn't listen to myself many times because I could picture people saying, "Oh, that's a silly suspicion." Fortunately, I have never been in a situation in which I deeply regret ignoring my intuition, but after reading The Gift of Fear I have learned how to listen to myself. I also baby-sit. The other day I was holding one of the children, and he pointed to one of his brother's friends and whispered to me, "I'm scared of him." I thought for a moment and replied, "Well, you know what? That's OK." I told him that if he's ever afraid, he should leave where that person is and go find Mommy, or me, or someone he knows and doesn't feel afraid. I was proud that he listened to his intuition, but I think I was more proud of my response. I was totally psyched that I had reinforced something he needs to survive. My point is that The Gift of Fear taught me how to use my gift of intuition and my gift of fear. Read the book because you will learn from it; you will use the tactics everyday. Gavin de Becker does an excellent job of sharing his experience in dealing with topics of understanding threats, predicting violence, workplace violence, stalking, domestic violence, and more. This book will shed new light in an area of our society where unwanted pursuits and violent behavior seem to be a part of our every day existence. Best of all, you will become more comfortable with every day life and you will use the wonderful treasures Mother Nature has given you because it was instilled in you by Gavin de Becker.
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